Travelling to see family and for a wedding! Feeling extremely happy at the moment, and why? I have found out that I shall be graduating with 2:1 despite all the ear troubles I had (2x ear operations and severe tinnitus) and I learned that my student union are taking on board what I have campaigning about in my final year at uni about accessibility for deaf student ( they are using subtitles) YEY!!! 
I’ve a got a new job lined up where I can make use of my new degree and I’ve starting up my driving lessons :-) 
So yeah! I’m happy all round!!

Travelling to see family and for a wedding! Feeling extremely happy at the moment, and why? I have found out that I shall be graduating with 2:1 despite all the ear troubles I had (2x ear operations and severe tinnitus) and I learned that my student union are taking on board what I have campaigning about in my final year at uni about accessibility for deaf student ( they are using subtitles) YEY!!!
I’ve a got a new job lined up where I can make use of my new degree and I’ve starting up my driving lessons :-)
So yeah! I’m happy all round!!

Anonymous said: Hi Sasha! But the friend whom you nominate to update you during group conversation, does she not mind repeating everything to you as group conversations are really lengthy? Also, during the conversation, do you keep quiet until the conversation is over before asking your friend to update you the whole thing from the beginning or a quick summary?

My friend depart repeat from word to word, but I just ask if I’m unsure about something :-)

Anonymous said: i cannot ask them to keep typing for me when speaking is much faster when obviously i can talk. Group revision, lunch , hangout, i cannot do any of this even with close frens. I cannot even talk on messenger as the topics they talk are really alien. I cannot connect! I really feel life has no meaning for me. I really feel like giving up..End. -Deaf Anom

Firstly don’t give up, I feel like I need to give you some tough love!! It’s seems like you don’t know what you need in order to ask for the support. Your friends are your friend because they care about you, therefore should be there for you. Speak up or suffer in silence. Been there done that and it was SHIT!

Anonymous said: Thus, I choose not to nominate anybody or not to get too close with anybody as I can sense they are afraid they will be forced to help me. It is really lonely but it is better for all of us. But, I am struggling everyday. Why? Why is it despite both of us being deaf, yet you have people willing to help you? How did they help you? How do u cope in ur studies, friendship, relationship? They always prefer to use speech to communicate as it have been part of their life. -deaf anom

It’s not like I point to someone and say I nominate you, if someone is sat next to me and lean over to say something like “are they talking about this…..” let’s face it, whether someone is deaf or hearing in a group conservation, people talk over each other and things get missed. So it’s always good to ask for clarification

Anonymous said: Hi Sasha! I am feeling very upset. Although deafness is part of my life, I really hate it. In group or class, I have to act like I can hear but I just did not learn anything. I just go along with the flow day in and out like zombie. My speech is really good despite being deaf. But, with ppl, I never talk. I want to say out smthg, but just can't talk. I have no idea they are saying. Nominating a friend who is forced to repeat for you gives an unpleasant feeling that you are a burden. -deaf anom

Firstly, my friends are not forced to do anything. It’s about meeting halfway, accommodating each other needs. Any kind of relationship is about working together. If I didn’t have any additional support then what’s the point. I merely ask them what I missed, rather than butting in and disrupting the entire conversation, delaying everything. This works for me and friends. I am strong and comfortable with my deafness and seek to ask for repeating if what’s being said.

Deaf people and dating

I feel like I’m being cornered by rabid men, and this is why…….
Recently I joined a page for deaf people, might I add that this isn’t dating page but a page to bring together deaf people, to share our culture, language and experiences. We are minority and it would be great to get to know other deaf people, is that wrong? However this page seemed to be dominated by men commenting on girls post with comments like “cute”, “I like you”, “add me” etc… I feel like a piece of meat that everyone is bidding on and all I said was hello and that I’m deaf, and BOOM!!!! Comments and friends request galore! All from men. Now instead of thinking “UGH, Men!!”, I got thinking about being deaf and dating. All over the world we are a part of our local deaf community, which can be small. This can make dating harder, it’s made harder when we factor in age, gender, relationship status and what we are looking for. Often in deaf communities we grew up together and know each other, so again it’s harder to meet someone new. Therefore we look outside our circle, hoping to meet someone. It is hard when profoundly deaf and rely on sign language because the world is made of mainly of hearing people, with no sign language skills. Creating a lot of barriers in communication. Hearing people may be wary about dating a deaf person, so we need to challenge these perceptions. Many deaf people would prefer to date a deaf person, and I can understand why? Being deaf is a part of who we are, and that need to be understood.
Ultimately in life, we want to have that special someone to share things with, experience love. It is only natural!

However we need to think about how we are finding someone. It is not good to message girls or men with comments based on looks, but take the time to actually talk to someone, to get to know them. It’s is never good to come across desperate!!

I would like to wish luck to those in finding love :)

Ps. We need a dating website catered to deaf people of all ages

http://thatdeafblackguy.tumblr.com/post/93947581119/deaf-hitman-nerdoutloud-i-need-to-know-what

deaf-hitman:

nerdoutloud:

I need to know what would happen if a witch/wizard had hearing aids because Hogwarts plus electronics is no bueno.

Even cooler than ‘fixing ears’, though: Hearing aids that run on magic. Hearing aids with enchantments that help cancel feedback. And guess…

Love this!!!

Well that time of the year has arrived! I am now 26 years old! :-)

Well that time of the year has arrived! I am now 26 years old! :-)

Deaf and Proud.. But what does it actually mean?

Deaf and proud, but how can someone be proud of something that is perceived as a ‘disability’ by a large majority (Not all :P) of the hearing society. What is there to be proud of exactly?

I personally think being Deaf and proud has a different meaning to each individual, after all we each have different experiences of being deaf. Some primarily uses BSL, some lip read, some are oral, or use SSE. Some of us grew up in the hearing world, attending mainstream school. While others grew up in the Deaf world and attended Deaf some schools, or had best of both worlds. We each have different negative and positive experiences, and all this adds up to our own unique feeling of being Deaf and proud.

In a sense I cannot give a definite answer …

For me, being Deaf and proud mean that I am proud of what I’ve accomplished despite the odds stack against me. I’m proud to be graduating from university after the nightmarish year I’ve had due to problems with my ears.  I’m proud to know sign language. The list goes on and on, but….Ultimately, I am proud to have learned to love my ears after hating them for so many years.  We cannot afford to hate something about us, as it will eat away at us.

So yeah! I’m Deaf and proud!

:D xx

Anonymous said: Hey Sasha! Not every uni got a disability office to go through with us what services we need. We have to tell them what services we want so it is hard for us to know what we want when we did not have any experiences with the services before. You are really lucky that you are able to access all these support in your country.

I’m guessing you’re in America?

Wow! That’s kinda sucks! I’m lucky to have the support but I don’t know the systems works where you are :/ I hope that you’ll get the support you need.