I feel like I’m being cornered by rabid men, and this is why…….
Recently I joined a page for deaf people, might I add that this isn’t dating page but a page to bring together deaf people, to share our culture, language and experiences. We are minority and it would be great to get to know other deaf people, is that wrong? However this page seemed to be dominated by men commenting on girls post with comments like “cute”, “I like you”, “add me” etc… I feel like a piece of meat that everyone is bidding on and all I said was hello and that I’m deaf, and BOOM!!!! Comments and friends request galore! All from men. Now instead of thinking “UGH, Men!!”, I got thinking about being deaf and dating. All over the world we are a part of our local deaf community, which can be small. This can make dating harder, it’s made harder when we factor in age, gender, relationship status and what we are looking for. Often in deaf communities we grew up together and know each other, so again it’s harder to meet someone new. Therefore we look outside our circle, hoping to meet someone. It is hard when profoundly deaf and rely on sign language because the world is made of mainly of hearing people, with no sign language skills. Creating a lot of barriers in communication. Hearing people may be wary about dating a deaf person, so we need to challenge these perceptions. Many deaf people would prefer to date a deaf person, and I can understand why? Being deaf is a part of who we are, and that need to be understood.
Ultimately in life, we want to have that special someone to share things with, experience love. It is only natural!
However we need to think about how we are finding someone. It is not good to message girls or men with comments based on looks, but take the time to actually talk to someone, to get to know them. It’s is never good to come across desperate!!
I would like to wish luck to those in finding love :)
Ps. We need a dating website catered to deaf people of all ages